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Present in Thought

Hi, it’s Shana. I’m responding to a question about whether as a woman, I ever notice that a man is present, even though he’s not connecting with me, he’s just more in thought.

The man who asked the question was saying that he was looking at the clouds or sometimes kind of getting lost in his own thoughts, and then noticing that sometimes people are looking at him after. Not in a way that he’s crazy, but just that people are looking at him.

So, it’s a little bit of a difficult question to answer, but I personally can say that I definitely notice. I actually really notice when people or when men especially are in thought or really present in the moment or aware of what’s going on around them or aware in the way that they’re paying attention to the surroundings, like being impacted by a sunset or by a cityscape or something. Or when I can feel that a man is going inside and really thinking or pondering something.

I would say for me that really draws my attention. And in part, I think, because we’re often moving around so quickly and we don’t really stop and take the time that when someone does and I notice that, I feel really curious.

So I don’t quite know, Derek, if that answers your question, but I guess what my sense is is that there’s another question under there that you haven’t quite asked yet, but maybe that will come in part two.

And I hope that helps!