Ok Dudes. If you’ve gotten this far, by now you’ve at least gotten an inkling that your relationship with women ain’t a goal or trophy of something you do. If you really thought that, you wouldn’t be reading this right now. Rather your relating with women is an expression of who you are, and who you are is so infinite that all attempts to explain it fall short.

Yet, if your anything like me, that’s a mind fuck! As a dude, if you can’t fuck it, kill it, or concur it, odds are, you probably don’t even notice it.

But let’s face it, it’s an inside job, and the “job” runs so deep, most likely your not up for it. If so, be honest with yourself & stop reading here.

However, if you’re one of those rare men who are up for the infinite realization of who you truly are, no kidding, then check out Garrison & Guy rapping about the year long intensive, TCLT. If your truly crazy enough to consider taking this, you got less than 1 week to take the dive.

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Guy being interviewed on purpose:
Part 1: http://tr.im/rCNs
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Interview on circling (our name for our coaching process):
http://www.authenticmanprogram.com/TCLT/videos_bryan.php

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Friendly Turn On

Hi, this is Shana from the Authentic Man Program, and I’m responding to a post called ‘Friendly Turn On.’ How do you stay friends with a woman when you’re into her and really attracted to her and she’s not so attracted to you.

The first thought that I have, this is kind of funny, but, is ‘breathe. a lot.’

So, it’s like, you can relate to turn-on in one way, and actually, in the post, he says something about being hot and bothered. You can relate to turn-on in that way, where it’s like, it overcomes you and you can’t do anything about it, and usually hot and bothered is because there’s only so much room that you’re making for turn-on, as opposed to letting it flow through your whole body and actually breathing and enjoying it, and letting it move, instead of trying to clamp it down.

So one would think that if you were letting it move that you might have to do something with it, or that it might be a little bit more awkward, cause someone might see it more, but I don’t think it’s true actually, I think there’s a way that- and I’ve done this myself, where I’m turned on and attracted to a man and he’s not available and I just feel it.

I can think of one man in particular, where, being around him was like, my body would buzz and there was all this energy, and when I let myself enjoy it, and let myself feel good with it, then it was fun, and it was fun to be around him, and there were moments where I was like, ‘ugh! God, I wish it wasn’t this way, or I wish he was available, I wish we could do something about it, but such is life!’ And I played with it.

So that would be my first suggestion for you is to breathe and actually expand the space in your body that you’re allowing turn-on to be in, and see if you can play with it and have fun, you know? It’s not to say that you’re never gonna be disappointed or that it’s not gonna feel shitty in some moments and perhaps you can talk about that with her if you’re honest, if you’re in that kind of honest relationship and perhaps to talk about that with other people.

I hope that helps!

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Giving Women Extraordinary Experiences

Hi, this is Shana from the Authentic Man Program, and I’m responding to a post about a question about giving women extraordinary experiences and what to do if you don’t know how to do that.

It was a question from a man who said, ‘what if I really want to give women an extraordinary experience?’ because a lot of women are saying they want that, but I don’t know that I know how to do that, and some women have a pretty high bar if they’ve had these experiences before and are asking for them.

So…the first thing that comes to mind is…talk to other men. And talk to women. And you can also ask the woman or the woman that you’re dating what she wants or what would be amazing for her. But it sounds like you’re wanting to come into the relationship having some ideas and having, kind of, something in your back pocket that you can do for her, so my suggestion is talk to other men, ask what they have done with women, talk to other women, ask what’s extraordinary for them. And then, like I said, really ask the woman, because every woman is different, and we’re different every day, in every moment.

So one thing that would be extraordinary on one day, might seem not as extraordinary on another day, which is a really great opportunity to practice not taking things personally!

So I hope that helps, and you know, post on the list! Post on the men’s side of the forum and ask what men do, and you can ask the question to women as well on our side. Thanks!

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Present in Thought

Hi, it’s Shana. I’m responding to a question about whether as a woman, I ever notice that a man is present, even though he’s not connecting with me, he’s just more in thought.

The man who asked the question was saying that he was looking at the clouds or sometimes kind of getting lost in his own thoughts, and then noticing that sometimes people are looking at him after. Not in a way that he’s crazy, but just that people are looking at him.

So, it’s a little bit of a difficult question to answer, but I personally can say that I definitely notice. I actually really notice when people or when men especially are in thought or really present in the moment or aware of what’s going on around them or aware in the way that they’re paying attention to the surroundings, like being impacted by a sunset or by a cityscape or something. Or when I can feel that a man is going inside and really thinking or pondering something.

I would say for me that really draws my attention. And in part, I think, because we’re often moving around so quickly and we don’t really stop and take the time that when someone does and I notice that, I feel really curious.

So I don’t quite know, Derek, if that answers your question, but I guess what my sense is is that there’s another question under there that you haven’t quite asked yet, but maybe that will come in part two.

And I hope that helps!