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Today, Shana answers a question from an AMP Inner Circle member asking about about one-night stands and whether they can be connected or not.

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Can a One-Night Stand be Connected?

 

Hi, it’s Shana. I’m responding to a question about one-night stands. Can they be connected? And what is the tipping point for a woman or has her actually want to have a one-night stand or say yes?

 

And, as always, I can only answer for myself, but what I can say is that, yes, in my experience, they can be connected. And at this point in my life, that’s the only way I really want to have a one-night stand. The other is not interesting to me, but I know that I and the AMP women are an interesting breed of women and we really really value connection.

 

So you may find women out there who don’t need as much connection as we want, but for me- and part of your question was, ‘is it looks, or is it physicality that has a woman- that is that tipping point?’ And for me, honestly, it doesn’t really have to do with that, you know, it’s how connected a man is with me, and when I imagine being in bed with him, because, if it’s a one-night stand, that’s where we’re going, what I imagine is how will he touch me and how will he adore me? And will he be able to pay attention to my body and what I like, and is he in it to give me an amazing experience as well as for his own pleasure.

 

And I can tell that, I can tell that by the way he pays attention to me in conversation, and I can tell that by the way he asks questions, and listens to me, and so I definitely- there are things that might surprise me, but I think at this point, I can pretty much tell from the way a man is being in his conversation and how present he is with me, how he will be in bed. And so for me, it’s not about looks necessarily or anything like that, it’s like, ‘huh. Can we actually create an amazing, pleasurable experience together?’

 

So I think that answers both questions; ‘can it be connected?’ and ‘what is the tipping point?’ And again, other women might have other tipping points, so I’m interested to hear what other women have to say, but for me, it’s like, ‘really can this be extraordinary?’ Because I don’t really want to waste my time or anyone else’s time if it’s not gonna be extraordinary. So there you have it! Hope that helps.