Do I have enough experience in bed?
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Today, Shana answers a question from an AMP Inner Circle member asking about his level of sexual experience.
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Hey guys, it’s Shana.
I am responding to a post, there’s a lot in this post actually, but the theme or the first question was about being a “1-minute man,” and whether women assume that if a man can’t stay present or hold connection in a conversation, that we’ll assume that he’ll be that way in the bedroom. And actually, Pria had a great response to that.
The next question that came up was about eagerness or willingness, and someone else responded and said, ‘well, what about those of us who don’t really have as much experience, and we are kind of eager and really willing?” And I’ve said this for a really long time, but for me- well, first of all, there’s a difference between eagerness and willingness, and a kind of ‘blowing out’ like, I know that we as women have a lot of energy, and it’s not always easy to be around. Whether you can hold that energy is different than whether you’re excited and eager and willing. So there’s a distinction there that’s maybe a little bit hard to get on video.
The other thing for me is that while I don’t really enjoy having sex that’s short all the time, again, like Pria said, it will happen, because we’re all human, I do prefer a man whose willing over a man who already knows what he’s doing.
For information about coaching with Shana email: shana@authenticsf.com
Today, Shana answers a question from an AMP Inner Circle member asking about his level of sexual experience.
Post your comments, reflections, insights here!
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Hey guys, it’s Shana.
I am responding to a post, there’s a lot in this post actually, but the theme or the first question was about being a “1-minute man,” and whether women assume that if a man can’t stay present or hold connection in a conversation, that we’ll assume that he’ll be that way in the bedroom. And actually, Pria had a great response to that.
The next question that came up was about eagerness or willingness, and someone else responded and said, ‘well, what about those of us who don’t really have as much experience, and we are kind of eager and really willing?” And I’ve said this for a really long time, but for me- well, first of all, there’s a difference between eagerness and willingness, and a kind of ‘blowing out’ like, I know that we as women have a lot of energy, and it’s not always easy to be around. Whether you can hold that energy is different than whether you’re excited and eager and willing. So there’s a distinction there that’s maybe a little bit hard to get on video.
The other thing for me is that while I don’t really enjoy having sex that’s short all the time, again, like Pria said, it will happen, because we’re all human, I do prefer a man whose willing over a man who already knows what he’s doing.
For information about coaching with Shana email: shana@authenticsf.com
June 25th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
Shana,
That last statement, “I prefer a man who is willing over a man who already knows what he’s doing.”
That is interesting.
I have been told, repeatedly, that a woman feels more safe and comfortable with a man who is relaxed, confident, and “knows what he is doing,” but here you say something different.
Do you mean that you prefer a man who is willing to feel and sense you and what you want, and where you are, over a man who is into a pre-conceived “knowing what he is doing”?
Or do you mean something else?
Jim
August 4th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
i’m not gonna answer for shana, but in my experience it is with the willingness to feel and sense that you mention that leads to better communication; therefore better sex because we both try to understand the other. and its actually quite fun! i do want to comment that i love that you are trying to understand and how you are breaking everything down in order to do it. bravo jim.
blessings
M